No one puts baby in the corner.

RIP Patrick Swayze.

25 Firsts

I stole this from our own samcy of Communiqué. I usually don't do these types of things, but this was a fun one!

"25 Firsts"

1. Who was your first prom date?
~ Jason. I wore a prom dress (duh) and he wore a tuxedo with shorts and high top vans. We doubled with our friends and her date wore the same thing. We went to prom in a Volkswagen bus which we had to push start. Yeah, we could have done the limo, but we thought we were SO punk rock.




2. Do you still talk to your first love?
~ No. I got a friend request from him on myspace within the last year and I sent him a message but he never responded. Bummer, I'd like to see how he is. Per his profile he is married and has children.

3. What was your first alcoholic drink?
~ Bacardi 151. Oh. My. God. We played a drinking game and I got past the point of loaded to the point of passed out and blacked out. High alcohol content + not knowing "how" to drink = bad news. Let's just sum up the story that I woke up in the bathroom without a shirt on, grasping another shirt (not the one I had on) in my hand.

4. What was your first job?
~ The "office girl" at a Wheelchair shop.

5. What was your first car?
~ Heh. A Renault Alliance which I had for all of 3 months before the radiator went out. I had to drive with the heat blasting on high to not overheat. In summer. In Phoenix. (that's where I'm from)

6. Who was the first person to text you today?
~ I haven't gotten a text yet today. It's only 8:30am. Although I bet it will be from Danielle, since I asked her to text me.

7. Who was the first person you thought of this morning?
~ Karl. Because he woke me up from a sound sleep at 6am.

8. Who was your first grade teacher?
~ Mrs Galoose.

9. Where did you go on your first flight in a plane?
~ Probably to Phoenix when I moved from Missouri when I was 4 years old.

10. Who was your first best friend and do you still talk?
~ Lori Reading. And no, we lost contact years and years and years ago.

11. Where was your first sleepover?
~ Lori's.

12. Who was the first person you talked to today?
~ Ella. I don't think I was talking to Karl when he woke up because when he wakes up before he should, I just try to change his diaper and feed him without engaging him so he can fall back to sleep. But this morning, Karl woke up Ella and I told her it was WAY too early for her to be up and got her back in bed.

13. Whose wedding were you in for the first time?
~ Hrm. I was in a bunch of weddings of my friends - but I think the first one I was in was Maid of Honor at Dana's.

14. What was the first thing you did this morning?
~ Changed karl's diaper.

15. What was the first concert you went to?
~ INXS. Heh. I was in 8th grade I think.

16. First tattoo?
~ The "tramp stamp" when I turned 18. That was 19 years ago. I've been tattooed longer than I haven't been.

17. First piercing?
~ Beside my ears, my belly button and then my tongue. My belly is still pierced! (keeping it through 3 pregnancies was quite a feat)

18. First foreign country you went to?
~ Mexico. And still the only foreign country I've been to. I suck as a world traveler.

19. First movie you remember seeing?
~ Star Wars. I was 5 years old. I remember being terrified of Darth Vader.

20. What state did you first live in?
~ Missouri

21. Who was your first room mate?
~ Chad (my boyfriend when I was 18).

22. When was your first detention?
~ Good lord. Um, when did they first start giving detention? That's when my first one was.

23. (samcy didn't have a #23 and neither do i!)

24. What is one thing you would learn, given the chance?
~ Surfing.

25. Who will be the next person to post this?
~ No freaking clue, but if you do this, be sure to let me know so I can read your answers!

Thou Shall Not Kill

I just killed a gnat by accident. And I feel terrible about it.

See, I don't kill anything. Okay, let me take that back, I do kill in some circumstances. Like if it's a black widow by the doorway of our house where it can hurt or even kill my children. THEN I'll kill it. But that's still last case scenario.

I figure I am not a being who can pick who lives nor dies, even if it's an insect. (although I support the death penalty. Hrm. That's something to think about.) Could you imagine being a little bug, going through all that is of life, only to be swacked to death by someone's hand who just felt you were annoying? Hell, if I got killed by the first person who felt I was annoying, I'd be dead many years ago! ~wink~

But really. I don't kill. I catch and release everything. Heh, speaking of, I don't even like to fish with live bait because I don't want to kill the worm or minnow. I killed this gnat though and I'm feeling all kinds of guilt over it. I'm sorry I ended your life little gnat!

And here you all thought I was a tough punk rock girl.

(eden - do you make fairy bread? And if so, do you use "hundreds and thousands?")

IVF in Colorado Springs? (or Albuquerque?)

I just received a gift certificate for $500 off any IVF treatment provided by RMFC. They are here in Colorado Springs and also have an office in Albuquerque, although I'm not sure if this coupon is for the NM office.

I'm not going to use it, but if anyone out there is seeking IVF from RMFC, let me know and I will be more than happy to send it out. It's valid through 02/28/2010. (I'll remove this post if anyone does take it. And if anyone does reply to this at a future date, be sure to email me at my email address in my profile so I will be sure to see it.)

Video killed the radio star ...

What form of music do you listen to? Is it all digital now?

I've been listening to my records lately. I used to be a vinyl freak and scour the record stores for a new find. There's just something about the sound of vinyl that I love. And many of the artists I listen to put their albums out on vinyl. Some bands even put ~more~ on their album than their cd or digital copies.

Mmmm. Vinyl.

Anyone else?

guilty pleasures.

This is the post in which I will lose all credibility...

I can't get enough of "kourtney and khloe kardashian take miami".

omg. It's on in the late morning and when I see it's on, it's like a car wreck and I can NOT tear my eyes away. Then I notice it's two back to back episodes and I said to myself "damn it, now I have to watch this for ANOTHER 30 minutes!" (like I have no choice in the matter.)

And I don't.

I don't understand why I am like this. WHY on earth do I watch? It's like television crack. I smoked one pipe hit and I'm hooked. I want to get clean, but that next fix feels SO good.

Does David Hasslehoff actually take himself seriously?

That seemed random, but it's not - it's playing on the tv next to me. No idea why it's on, no one is watching it. (except me apparently)

I figured out my song I'm going to dance burlesque to. I'm excited to go to the next class (we're making our shimmy belts!) and run it by the choreographer. Whom, I may add, is a super hot guy. And gay. No stereotypes there. (my friend who I'm attending this class with is a super hot lesbian. I'm so gay friendly.)

Now that I've showed you mine. Show me yours. (maybe not the best thing to type after talking about people's sexuality. But I only mean show me ~your~ guilty pleasures!!)

Really? How is "KU" not irritating to everyone else?

Someone just posted about words/phrases/abbreviations uses that are annoying. For me, it's "KU". By the infertility set. Knocked Up. Really. How can the girl going through 5 IVF announce her coveted BFP by saying she got "KU'ed"? (made up scenario)

Is it just me?

Burlesque!

I joined a local burlesque troupe and our workshop started last night. It takes place over the next 4 Thursday nights and I'm terrified! I am not the dancer type, but I love love love burlesque. Who knows if I can do it or not, but I'm going to try!

One thing I wasn't aware of is how close it is to stripping. Not in the taking your clothes off for money part, just the taking your clothes off part. The difference though is in burlesque, you take your clothes off in a very classy way. It's the classical strip tease, where it's more tease than strip. Apparently, burlesque dancing died with the birth of strip dancing, which is all stripping and no tease.

So. Yeah. I soon can add 'burlesque dancing' to my resume. Hrm. What Fortune 500 company wouldn't want a tattooed, pierced, burlesque dancing derby girl?

Questions 1-4 wrap up (and my answers)

Before I get into this, I wanted to say how very sorry I am for anyone who had such horrible things said to them. So many were just heartbreaking and hard to even read as a third party, much less these things being told to my friends. I'm so sorry any of you had to go through hearing so many of those things. And I also want to say that for those who feel guilty about the worst thing they've ever said, the pure fact you remember it means you feel bad for saying it. You took ownership and that's what it takes. Many of you already had apologized. If you haven't and you still can, why not try now?

To recap, the four questions were ...

#1 - What was the worst thing said to you?
#2 - What was the best thing said to you?
#3 - What was the worst thing you've said to someone?
#4 - What was the best thing you've said to someone?

Someone in the comments mentioned "How come we always remember the bad?" which seems to be true. 69 people answered the first question and 49 answered the second. Then 37 for #3 and 33 for #4. In this little experiment, more people were apt to answer that "worst thing ever said to me" than the best thing said to them or what they have said to another.

In working with the answers, I categorized them types of answers. Let me break them down by what the what offensive comment had the most "votes" to the least.

#1 - What was the worst thing said to you?
~ Knocking down your self esteem from any person
~ Weight comments (could have included in above, but there were so many of these, I made them their own category
~ Pregnancy loss
~ IF
~ Comments towards living babies
~ Disease
~ Religion
~ Death
~ Lying
~ Other

#2 - What was the best thing said to you?
~ Love by friend/parent/child
~ That you were pregnant
~ Self esteem builders
~ good news
~ other

#3 - What was the worst thing you've said to someone?
~ Knocking down some one's self esteem
~ Telling someone "I hate you"
~ Name calling
~ Not being understanding with someone Else's loss
~ other

#4 - What was the best thing you've said to someone?
~ Vows
~ Saying "I love you"
~ Giving compliments (self esteem)
~ Telling someone else, like significant other, you were pregnant.


Did you notice how there were patterns there?

Q#3/Q#4: In the set of questions of what YOU have said, both good and bad, the categories were quite the same - being the good opposite of the bad.
~ This tells me the things you determine as good are the exact opposite as the things you remember telling someone as bad. Which really makes sense, since that's how people work. If I thought telling someone something that hurt their self esteem was my worst thing, I would think me complimenting some one's self esteem would be the best thing.

Q#2/Q#4: Very similar. The best thing said to you is quite often the same categories as what you determined was the best thing you've said to someone. Again it makes sense, because what people put value in is going to be thought of first.

Q#1 is the black sheep. And I think it's because you remember the most vile thing said to you and since that person whom said those things are not you or the good people you hang out with, this category should be all on it's own. And rightfully so. There were some terrible things said and I wish I could give each one of you a big ole virtual hug. Although some of the answers centered around loss/death, which wouldn't count as someone being horrible, it was just horrible news.

Does anyone have anything to add to my very non scientific assessment?

To be fair, here are my answers:

#1 - What was the worst thing said to you?
~ "Have you ever thought it may be God punishing you by not giving you a baby? You are already going to ruin the two children you have and He knows you don't deserve another" (I am a good mom. This comment not only ripped open my heart about not conceiving, but it attacked my job as a mother, from someone who doesn't even know me.)

#2 - What was the best thing said to you?
~ "Will you make me the happiest man in the world and become my wife?" (my husband on his knee at the top of the never never land run on the summit of Breckenridge, holding out a diamond ring)
~ "8lbs 8ozs!" said as my first was born.
~ "She does not have any other soft markers for Downs syndrome" (said by periontologist after Nuchal fold was measured larger than average)
~ "The embryo is right in the uterus. It's not ectopic!" (said by my RE after FET when they were SURE it was ectopic)
~ "Why, hello there." (said by my nurse after waking up from Emergency surgery just minutes after giving birth to Karl. I honestly didn't know I'd survive the surgery. I did.)

#3 - What was the worst thing you've said to someone?
~ I was in Jr High and it was Halloween night. We were all hanging around outside watching all the kids trick-o-treat and from the back, this little girl looked like she was a robot. So I yell "hey! check out the robot!" (which was supposed to be a compliment.) Instead, a little girl in leg braces and cross bars turned to me with the saddest look in her eyes and said "I'm a princess" with the saddest tone ever. That look she gave me can still reduce me to tears today.

#4 - What was the best thing you've said to someone?
~ I do.
~ I love you.
~ Hi, I'm your new mommy. x3.

The Care Bears

Are the Care Bears boys or girls?