quick comment about the previous post

In seeing some of the first comments, I wanted to note that I'm not really talking about the "title" of infertility. I'm not talking about when someone goes for treatment or when someone admits to themselves they may be the horrible "I" word.

As I said in one of the comments, I have just read a few blogs of late where the author discusses the trials and tribulations of living with infertility - when they've only begun trying! Now, I can totally understand blogs complaining about how shitty it feels to get a BFN. And how much it sucks to be on "C6" or whatever. How crappy it feels to see preggos all around you. But to say they are "dealing with infertility" at that point? No way! Not when they haven't even been trying for a whole year. Not when they have no known issues. Not when they may get the BFP the very next cycle.

These people may actually end up being infertile. And I think infertility, once proven, is part of your being. Part of who you are. It doesn't "start" at some 12 month mark. It doesn't "start" when you find out both your tubes are sealed shut. If you end up finding you are infertile, you had been infertile from the beginning. But to make a fist and shout out to the world how unfair it is to be infertile when you are on your 4th cycle of trying? Um, yeah. Listen closely and you can probably hear my eyes rolling.

Having troubles ttc? Sing it sister! Pour your heart out. It sucks to fail at this. It sucks on C1. It sucks on C7. It SUCKS. But save the infertility song until you have a real reason. Wait until you've been trying for over a year. Wait until you find out there is something really wrong. Wait until you budget your yearly vacation fund for your upcoming IVF treatments. Just wait on the "I" word, because believe me, you don't want to become part of it's definition.