Remember all of that "assvice" I spoke of below? I ran into a comment from the assvicer talking to someone else to say how I should be ignored. How, with my negative thinking, no amount of doctors, medicine or IVF will get me pregnant. How I'm in for a surprise of a lifetime by not taking her "just relax" assvice.
She went on and on an on about me being so negative and full of "ill will" (and I was NICE in my response to her. Could you imagine if she got a true taste of my sarcasm??) How I need to be ignored and let people understand the power of positive thinking.
Then this woman (from here on out referred to as the Secret Loon) dribbled on and on and on and on about "The Secret". How powerful it was and how it made her life so wonderful. (She's 41 now. If she just figured out how to be happy, wow, that's a lot of years of suckdom).
Secret Loon said "The Secret": 1) allowed her to meet her soulmate 2) got her a dream career and 3) got her pregnant. NONE of that possible without The Secret.
Okay, I haven't read "The Secret" but if this gist is about positive thinking, hasn't that been done already? I mean, don't we already know if we think negatively and allow our actions to respond to our negative thinking, negative things will follow? If you don't think you can get the job so you don't apply for it, guess what? You aren't going to get the job. But think positive and apply and damn it, you may very well get it. So please tell me, how is The Secret new? I'm sure it puts a new spin on things, but when it comes down to it, is there really a secret at all?
I can tell you this, someone who doesn't ovulate isn't going to make follicles appear with positive thinking. Applying to be a sports illustrated bikini model when you aren't in shape isn't going to result in a call back because you think positively about it. Good things will happen when you work for what's in reach. Even what's just out of reach at times.
I'll tell you a secret. The guy who wrote that book is laughing his way to the bank. But shhhh. It's a secret.
... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
Belly Pics for #3 only.
Click stick figure to see the consecutive pictures from this pregnancy only.
My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
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17 comments:
Ha, I love it! I think you are a magnet for these can't take any opposing opinion weirdos.
I've gotten "The Secret" assvice before. From more than one person. Although I believe that negative thinking is not good for your life in general, I don't believe that positive thinking will get your pregnant.
I'm still trying to understand how her positive thinking ties in with her negative talking about you...
Don't you just love those types?
Excuse me while I go make my ovaries work just by positive thinking. I mean, that 3 months of Clomid couldn't do it....but dammit, positive thinking will. LOL
Isn't the Secret the one that is associated with that cult? Or something like that, I am sure that it is from something that is not quite legitimate. I believe that it is their way of trying to break into the mainstream.
I hate the freakin' relax assvice. I even listed it as one of the most hated pieces of assvice in my post on Creme de la Creme. You are certainly not full of "ill will" Nancy. You've given me some of the best advice during TTC (not assvice) and I appreciate it.
I could not agree with you more. I cannot believe that this saga has continued! I thought she might have realized that even though her intentions were good, she did hurt some people's feelings. I cannot believe that she is now attacking you for having your very appropriate feelings! Also, the fact that your feeling were shared by other did not seem to matter!
Hopefully the madness will end soon. I will try and do my part...
Lisa (aka. hisangelface)
I've read the Secret (library copy). Just to say I thought it was crap with authority.
It's crap.
Nowhere in there is putting people down, lack of compassion, negative thinking toward others, etc. part of the principle. In fact, based on the book, thinking these things about others would bring them back to you by this "law of attraction." So she would be in for a total lack of compassion and judgement.
There are elements that are useful (appreciation for what you already have, trying to keep a positive outlook when the going gets tough), but other than that, it's exactly the kind of tool that parts fools and their money.
LMAO....gotta love ya nancy! After reading your previous blog, I realized that I was one of the ones who always said chill, and it will happen. Now, I want to slap myself. Maybe it's the not knowing what to say part, then later you realized what ya said was stupid...i dont know. Now that I am 7 cycles into this, and by no means is that a long time or anything to worry about, but it's still 7 months, ugk...I now realize what it feels like to have people say to you what I used to say to people..does that make any sense? lol
Anyways, thanks nancy...sometimes your blog is like my daily horoscope- I take it into advice and live by it. :) And no matter what anyone says about you...your honesty, sarcasm, and bitchiness is exactly what i heart about you! It's what makes you Nancy.
One of the many reasons I'm glad to NOT fit in on those sparkly-blinky-kittens-and-bible-verses-signatures boards.
Blurgh.
I love your Secret Loon idea. I know a few of those too...
HA HA! I'm so with you on The Secret. It's such a crock of shit.
OMG, I'd want to kill her!
Wow, if all it took to get my husband's sperm to the outside world was positive thinking then I'd be about 40 grand richer. Some people are just lame.
It will never happen for you. Your two children should cry daily they have you for a mother. How sad... You need to stopped!
oh I HATE "The Secret" bullshit.
It ranks right up there with 'when you relax..." F**K you man, relax? This is BIOLOGICAL. If I relax it won't improve my husband's sperm count you ninny.
*sigh* see what I mean? Tiny bit emotional about it.
why don't you speak the truth - that woman never once wrote the words "relax" - not once!
Anon- are you living under a rock? Or is English just not your cup of tea?
She said "just let it go", which, last I knew, mean to stop worrying about it and relax. Then, we had a conversation about the exact terminology of "just relax".
Are you ~seriously~ trying to talk shit about to me about symantics? (fyi - since you may need some help with that word, try www.dictionary.com )
Have a great day! :)
You could have helped her out a little better--it's "semantics", unless you meant Symantec, the anti-virus and other software company ;-)
It's amazing to me how things get so intense when the general subject matter is people offering the best they have to offer, lame or not, to someone else. I'm inspired to rewrite "The Little Drummer Boy" Christmas Carol. Let's see, something like:
...
Our finest gifts we bring, pa rum pum pum pum
...
I have no gift to bring, pa rum pum pum pum
That's fit to give the King, pa rum pum pum pum,
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Shall I play for you, pa rum pum pum pum, On my drum?
Mary nodded sarcastically, pa rum pum pum pum,
Play your drum? A DRUM???!!! How fucking lame, get the hell out!
Bring in the next person with gold, pa rum pum pum pum
Ok, it doesn't rhyme that well, I'll work on that.
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