Friday, July 2, 2010

I want to be a gestational surrogate.

But I think I'm too old. What's the age limit, doesn anyone know? And how in the world does one start the process?

I don't even know if I could be one in the count of my history with high risk pregnancies, but if at all possible, I'd be one in a flash. I think it would be the greatest gift I could ever give to someone.

I've been thinking about it so much lately, I wish I could just do it.
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13 comments:

Elana said...

I think it's a fantastic gift to someone, but they might disqualify you because of the accreta. That's scary stuff, and they won't want to put your life in that type of danger again. I have no idea about age limits, though.

Kara said...

I love being pregnant and the thought has occured to me. My sis asked if I would do it for her if she couldn't have kids. I don't know if she was serious or not. I think it is a great unselfish thing to do.

projectkjetil said...

I feel the same way, and plan to say yes should one of my gay boyfriends ever ask me to carry a child for him. And yet I'm thinking that my history of cholestasis and pre-eclampsia might disqualify me. It's all academic, though, since he hasn't even broached the subject.

Robin said...

Your RE's office would know, wouldn't they? I know my RE has a surrogacy program.

loribeth said...

Check out Mel's blog roll for surrogacy blogs, you might find some info there. Kymberli at I'm A Smart One has been a surrogate.

niobe said...

Take a look at surromomsonline.com. It's an online community of surros and IPs (intended parents) and a great place to find information about surrogacy.

Jenera said...

i wouldn't even know where to begin with something like that. i have thought about that as well since there are so many women who can't carry a baby for whatever reason. I just think that I wouldn't be able to because of my weight even though I'm in pretty good health otherwise.

Heather said...

A coworker of mine did it and she is definitely over 35, but she also previously only had complication free pregnancies.

She loved the experience so much she is thinking of doing it again. What an amazing gift!

Kim said...

As long as they do not use your eggs the age limit I *think* was 42.

You have to be finished having your children.

I *think* you have to be low risk though.

There were different rules if say your friend asked you to do it. But I don't know those rules.

Kristin said...

Talk to Kym over at I'm a Smart One. She is 35 and is almost certainly going to be a gestational surrogate again this year.

MrsSpock said...

I would check Kym's blog, as Kristin suggested. I would love to be a surro, but am high-risk because of autoimmune issues and whatnot.

MrsDrink said...

I think that is amazing Nancy and if it were me who needed a surrogate, I would choose you in a minute! I think it's totally selfless and one of the most awesome ways you can make someone's family complete. Speaking from a couple with no children after 6 years of trying...you would be someone's greatest miracle just like all other surrogates are. <3

m said...

Nancy, you are awesome and amazing.

Our RE's office sets the age limit at 45 and won't use anyone who has a history of gestational diabetes or high blood pressure. You have to be married (or with a life partner) and have to have kids of your own. Most clinics will ask you to go through the full battery of exams that you already know so well (HSG, sonohystogram, bloodwork, yada yada). But I'm sure Kym would be able to give you more details.

What an awesome adventure. How does your hub feel about it? Have you guys discussed it seriously yet?