We all know my personal opinion on how I feel about cosleeping with an infant, but this post isn't about that (whew! I know! Not another nancy-on-her-soapbox-post!)
I have a totally different opinion about cosleeping with a toddler or older children. I love it!
When one of the girls has a nightmare or just wakes up scared of the dark, they come to us in bed and gets in. This period of cuddletime is one of my favorite things to do. We don't make it a habit though, as I still believe our bed is just that. ~Our bed~. As soon as they are sound asleep in my arms, I carry them back to their own bed. But those moments of having a child fall asleep and sleep soundly in my arms is beyond wonderful.
Karl just woke up crying and did not want to go back down. So I scooped him up and brought him in his big bed with me. (we have a full size bed in his room.) it took awhile, but he finally fell asleep in my arms.
To be honest, I wish cosleeping with an infant didn't have risks of death. I would have loved to sleep with my babies. It's just such a peaceful time. And nothing competes with that sort of bond with your baby. I'm perfectly content though that sleeping with an older child or toddler is no longer dangerous. So when I get to do it, I will gladly let one of my children in bed with me.
I do want to be careful though, especially with Karl. I don't want our bed to become a permanent family bed. I still believe our bed is our bed. And children, for the most part, should not disrupt our one personal sanctuary. But on the rare occasion one of my children feel the need to sleep with me, I'm happy as can be to share my space.
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... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
Belly Pics for #3 only.
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My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
7 comments:
I agree 100% with the cuddle time! I actually wish Caiden woke up a little more during the night needed a snuggle- is that weird! Of course- even when she does wake up she never falls asleep in bed with us- she thinks thats playtime. So I end up going into her room and just snuggling with her on her armchair in there until she falls asleep. Not quite the same- but those snuggles are delicious!
My oldest Lilian (gonna be 2 in a week) sleeps with us almost every night, now she doesn't fall asleep with us, she goes in her own bed and eventually makes it to ours. I love cuddling with her so much, it makes my mornings. She has been sleeping with us since she was a couple of weeks old, because it was so much easier to do the midnight and early morning nursings with her in bed with me. I know it's considered dangerous, but I took a lot of precautions to ensure her saftey. As for my youngest, Haylen, she has not spent one night in the family bed, her crib is in our room, but I think she is more content having a whole crib to her self, I mean she is already sleeping through the night at 4 weeks! I love the idea of the family bed, being raised in an European household, it was considered the norm, the US is one of the only countries that considers it taboo. Now, my husband and I do find alone time, intimate time and don't really see the children in the way, plus the way I look at it, they grow so fast, I will enjoy the time they are small enough to want to sleep with "mommy" and "daddy". oops, sorry this turned out so long.
I love cuddle time, but I hate sleeping with my girl. She is an active sleeper, and there is nothing she likes better than bracing her feet against something while she's sleeping. Like my ribs when I was pregnant. And my face, now that she's almost 4. So, if we're going to get up soon when she climbs into bed, she can stay. Otherwise, it's right back to her own bed. Also, if we let her stay once, she will grab her bears and head right for our bed at bedtime. She also assures me that when she's big, she's going to sleep in our bed...with us. Not a chance, little girl, not a chance.
Our bed is our bed. Its too important to my relationship with my partner to not have some private time at night with her, so I haven't coslept regularly with my daughter since she was about 6 months old. Still, my favorite time is weekend mornings when my daughter wakes up at her normal time but we all want a little extra sleep, so I bring her back to bed with us. Love cuddling her back to dreams and then laying in bed giggling and playing with her when she wakes again.
Those moments become more and more precious as the kids get older.
As grateful as I am that Skeeter sleeps so good in his bed, I REALLY wish he would cuddle with me. Just the thought of it makes me want to melt.
LOL, Andrew sometimes sleeps through the night, but most nights, he comes in by me at 3 a.m. Honestly, I am so tired that I just let him because I'd rather he fall back asleep quickly than deal with him screaming while I am already up a few times a night with the baby and then up @ 6:00 to get ready for work.
I figure I'll deal with it someday when I have more energy. Sounds lazy, but it's the truth!
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