I know you already know my final question (and then I'm going to post something about all 4 ...)
What was the best thing you have ever said to anyone? Does anything stand out that you would think someone else would consider what you've said to be their "best"?
... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
Belly Pics for #3 only.
Click stick figure to see the consecutive pictures from this pregnancy only.
My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
33 comments:
I recently told my sister that I would be her surrogate if she wanted. She is on medication that is completely incompatible with pregnancy & can't be off of it for more than a day without severe consequences & I know that it really upsets her that she 'shouldn't' get pregnant. She did so much for the hub & I while we were trying & then pregnant & now as an aunt that it just felt right to offer & makes me feel as good as I hope it makes her feel.
other than that telling my husband & Caiden that I love them & they are my world is pretty high up there.
(I swear I'm not stalking you- I am the first response to a lot of these!)
My wedding vows.
Completely from the heart - under the fall leaves and sky -- across from him.
Absolutely.
Really have no clue about this one. I try to give compliments often but I don't think there was anything ever really note-worthy.
Maybe when I tell R that I love him...
I can't think of anything, but I'm not good with words so that doesn't surprise me. I can remember a friend saying to me "that's the best thing anyone's ever said to me" but I can't for the life of me remember what it was I said.
I do.
I don't know because no one has ever really pointed it out to me. I did have a friend from high school run into my mom and she told my mom that I changed her life. I'm not sure how but that's just what she said.
I compliment people all the time.
Probably the best thing I ever told anyone was when I told my mom that she was the best mom ever and that we wouldn't have been able to lead productive lives without her. I wrote a paper in my college writing class all about her and I think she really appreciated it.
I don't really know, because when I say nice things to people, they always act surprised. I'm not exactly sure why, because although I might express irritation with situations frequently, I don't tear people down.
How sad is it that mostly the bad things stand out?
My husband says that he felt like a million bucks the first time I told him he was "my favorite person I know".
When I was in University I wrote my parents a letter telling them how much they mean to me. I think they would still consider that high up on their list.
I told my cousin (whom I also consider a great friend) that I admired her strength and greatness as a mother. Her daughter has juvenile arthritis and they are at the hospital a lot. But she just keeps on going and you would never know that her daughter was sick from the outside looking in... it amazes me.
Even though they are still to young to understand, I hope my boys will think it is wonderful that I am constantly telling them that I love them and how proud I am of them. They, along with my husband, are my everything!
"We're having a baby!"
It began our life as a family of three, where we had more to think about than just us.
One of my best friends once told me that she knew we would be lifer besties when I told her, after the first time we hung out, that I knew her. I think it is one of the best things that you can say to someone- that you know them. Isn't that all we want? To be known. (& accepted)
You are my heart and soul. I can't imagine my life without you.
"We're having a baby!" I said it to Josh after 3 positive tests.
On Mother's Day this year, my first as a new mother, I thanked my mom for giving birth to me and taking care of me as a baby and raising me. I think that until I had a baby myself, I didn't fully understand the time and energy and love required to raise a child.
"I forgive you" but I would say the impact was much greater for me than them. I guess you would have to ask my loved ones, I'm pretty open with what I have to say and I usually say nice things A LOT! I'm not the type to hold it in!
"you're not broken..." followed by a string of compliments that will make me cry to repeat.
i compliment my seventh graders almost daily. whether it's for doing great in class, or wearing a cute outfit, or when i catch one being nice for no reason. seeing a kid's face after you've taken a second out of your day to boost their self-esteem is one of the best feelings i've ever had.
...and telling the hubs how awesome he is in a million different ways is fun, too. :)
"For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, til death do us part"
" Yes, yes, yes I'll marry you (my DH said this was the best)
I never realized how much my vows meant to me until I almost lost my husband. We are gonna renew our vows in Gatlinburg in October..His idea!! :)
you are okay just the way you are...
said to me by me.
"you are the best person I know."
said to my husband
Nancy, Nancy..I've already left my comment on this one..But you need to send a ring pic & story over to me..I really want to see if we can make this big..So jump on :)
My door is ALWAYS open to you and you can stay here as long as you need.
Definitely "I do" cos as much as they were the best things I said it was also the best thing to have said to me on the same day.
xxx
Apparently I don't say enough nice things because I can't think of anything particularly spectacular that I've said to anyone...
"Thank you for the look I'm seeing on my sister's face." Said in my maid of honor toast to my BIL at his wedding to my little sister. I love that he makes my sister so happy, even if he irritates the hell out of me. Oh goddess, nearly in tears just thinking about it now.
The best thing I've ever said??
I don't know...I guess it would have to be my wedding vows because my husband says so. LOL
I don't think that anyone has ever told me that what I said made their day or changed their life, kwim?
But I also try to constantly offer all 4 of my children encouragement, loving words, and promises. I'm not sure how much it means to them, as children, but it means a lot to me that I can be that kind of mother to them and know that they KNOW how I feel. I didn't have that.
Steph
stephs_3_kidz
When my daughters day: I can't...
I tell them,
"We don't say "I can't...".
We say
"It's hard. Because sometimes life is hard and we need help"
Dave's mother heard me say that the other day and told me it was a profound statement and that her mother never said anything like that to her, she wishes she had been given positive thoughts like that in her life.
I never thought it was a huge deal but now, looking at it, I guess it is.
I was trying to fill out a thank you card for the woman who hosted my baby shower. I told her that when I reflected on the milestones of my life in the last 10 years (good and bad) she had been there for them all and how much that meant to me.
When thinking back, I was really blown away by all that she has stood by me for.
I sat with a student once and told her that I thought she might have a learning disability. I was so afraid to tell her but her reaction was to cry with relief. She was 20 years old and no one had ever noticed. She just thought she was stupid. She was tested and it is one of the most specific times I felt like I made a difference.
The obvious is easy "Yes!" when my husband asked me to marry him. Poor guy was crazy nervous. I have no idea what else I've said that would have been great...huh, that's a tough one.
I think it was probably the first time I called my step-grandmother "grandmom" and not "Carole" for the first time. I don't know what it meant to her, but I know it meant the world to my grandfather (and he meant the world to me).
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