I've been reading all the comments (thanks!) and the idea of longer leave keeps coming up. For those that want it, sure, but I swear, I'm not the only one who is going absolutely batty at the end of 12 weeks.
And I wanted to mention that working does not mean you are missing out on all your child's growth. I'm gone a maximum of 8 hours a day, leaving 16 other hours. It makes me cringe when people talk about missing out on the first year. I'm not. It's the other 16 hours that makes up for it.
Plus, my daycare is freaking wonderful. Both my children learned how to write their name by 2 1/2 years old. Including knowing the entire alphabet and some writing and spelling by 3. I'm sure many stay at home moms involve 2 hours of an early child development program curriculum into their day, but I wonder how many do not.
... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
Belly Pics for #3 only.
Click stick figure to see the consecutive pictures from this pregnancy only.
My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
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8 comments:
Hey, We get a year in Canada, so I will sooo take it, a year paid leave!
But after that I'm a day care supporter
I am glad you posted this. It is nice to hear from women who either are unable to stay home or those that choose to be working moms. I will absolutely have to work while raising our next child, and I get tired of feeling guilty for it!
Just my two cents worth!
Sara
I don't... and by 18 months I'm quite happy for someone who's more qualified than I am to take care of them part-time - even though I work from home.
Work or no work, I'd never judge your parenting...all anyone has to do is look at your family photos and can tell you are such a wonderful mother. And working as much as you do? Please, all it shows is how strong you are..why on earth would anyone suggest by working you miss out on your kids life? It's 2008 people..there just aren't as many stay-at-home moms anymore!
I am like you. I feel I am a better mother because I work outside the home. I would go coo-koo if I was home all the time. After this past three day weekend I was GLAD to come back to work. Don't get me wrong I love my son and I love the time I have with him. I think that because we don't see each other all day long then the time we do have, evenings and weekends, are so much more precious and special. I would like to see a mandatory paid 6 week leave with an optional 6 week unpaid extention offered. I think it's vital to a woman's mental and physical well being to fully recover from childbirth and dealing with a new baby. I was put on total bed rest at 32 weeks and delivered at 38 weeks...there went my 6 weeks sick leave I had saved up and I'd just delivered the baby. I had bad PPD and the thought of no paycheck nearly sent me over the edge. Fortunately I had an understanding employer that allowed me to work from home and flex my hours and paid me my full check regardless of whether I had accrued time off so that I didn't have to go without a paycheck. But I know some people aren't so lucky. However, I don't think the government should be the one to pay for this benefit. I know some people that would be popping out babies all the time. I would rather like to see it as a common benefit that is offered by the employer like health insurance. I know some, very few though, companies do. I am a firm believer that if you treat your employees fairly and with respect you will have more loyal employees.
As much as I wanted to stay home because I love being with Lex I'm sure if I was here 24-7 I would have gone nuts by now, I don't feel like I'm missing his first year. I do get a little bummed when he does something we've been working on for my parents before I get to see it, but that is a treat for my parents. Now if I would have had 12 weeks maybe I'd feel differently but who knows...
I don't remember what my mom taught me as a tot, but I do remember Sesame Street! I think that is how I learned my numbers and alphabet prior to going to kindergarten. I didn't do preschool. No daycare for me either. Back then, my dad made a good income and mom stayed at home and raised us kids. But, she also babysat other kids, which I guess did supplement my dad's income and give her some of her own spending money.
I'm with you, Nancy. I'll take my 12 weeks, but after that, I want to be at work. But then again, I'm the major bread winner in our family so if we want to be able to stay in our home, I have to work. I'm all right with that, though.
DH's grandma (very old school) says that I can't work, I need to stay home to raise my children. I can't get mad at her or even really correct her, as she is too sweet. I will be working.
it would be nice to have the choice. it ticks me off when i look back - I had 4 months off. Now they get 12 months if they want it (here). I wish I had the option to go back later and still keep my job.
Rita
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