Tuesday, October 28, 2008

The Day After

Although I'm still pissed off when I think about what an asshole that guy is, I'm not going to let it fester anymore. I will acknowledge he's a selfish dick. I take comfort in knowing in life, you get what you give. And I will do my best to move on from the situation without giving him any more of my time or energy. In the grand scheme of things, he doesn't mean anything to me, as the role he played in my life was simply an extra with a few meaningless lines. I'll still be forced to deal with the guy for awhile due to an ongoing project, but I'll manage with as little contact as possible.

You know what's the ~best~ thing in my life right now? My husband. He is just being the best guy in the entire world, really reminding me why we got married in the first place. During the past few years, we kind of fell into a "rut" of sorts. Trying to conceive, parenting and now pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. But we're really trying to focus back on being a couple. Being a romantic couple.

Last night was ~wonderful~. Not only was the sex outrageously fabulous, but everything surrounding it was great. We spent hours in bed before even having sex. Cuddling, laughing at stupid television and just enjoying being together. Then we had a full on make out session before coming close to getting naked. I'll admit that I had forgotten how awesome he really is over the past year. I was focusing on all the things that I don't like, even though they are all so minor. But I was letting those minor things build up into major things. I'm slowly chiseling away at the boulder I created into the pebbles they should be. We are a really good couple and I can't let that fall apart because I'm not willing to pay attention to what I really have in my life already.

13 comments:

g said...

Yah on reconnection! thats awesome and so important...

And screw that guy!!!

glad your focusing on the good and blowing off the bad! i know its hard todo but glad your doing it!!

(((HUGS))))

Kaci said...

Glad you're already getting over it. And yay for the great hubby & an awesome night.

Hollie said...

Good post Nancy. Your DH really sounds like a great guy. All of the other dumb people will fall away and be forgotten, but your marriage needs to stay strong. And yes, parenting is very important, but I believe a strong marriage makes for better parents. Your kids will learn how to have relationships based on what they see from you... As I'm saying this, I'm realizing that it's kind of scary! We have some things we need to work on.

KatieM said...

This post made me smile....very glad to hear it =)

theclam said...

That sounds so great Nance! Sometimes we're so busy trying to find the flowers that we just forget to smell them...

xxx

Jenera said...

In my opinion, reconnecting (or staying connected) with the hubby can fix just about anything. I think we all get so worked up over every day things and it all gets in the way. I know that when my hubby is home and he pays attention to ME, I'm like a brand new woman.

Pregnancy, at any stage, is so hard too because it becomes such a focus for us, right?

Morgan said...

Fuck, i'm jealous. I haven't even got none since my post about it on my blog. Boo.

Sara said...

Congrats on the fantastic sex! Always a good way to start the week! It is amazing how a little bit if closeness and bonding can erase some of the negative feelings that have been building up. It always helps me!

JamieD said...

That sounds like such a great evening. I can't wait until the day that every problem in our life is gone and we can just focus on each other.

I hate us being preoccupied when I just want to be together.

Io said...

Yay for some good sex! I'm glad you guys are doing well.

Rita said...

sex? What's that?
'-)
Rita

Geohde said...

This reminds me that my poor husband and I are stuck in the rut of sleep deprivation and ships passing in the night....

J

Glennformer said...

Happy to hear about the reconnection--it's so easy to get distracted. Dusty and I haven't been spending much time together but we reconnected today at the new place.