A few people left comments regarding this and I thought it was important enough to mention it.
Babies make noise when they sleep. So much noise I actually turned off the monitor during the night (nursery is literally 10 feet from my bed, so I could hear them just fine). If I had the baby in my bedroom, co-sleeper, crib, bassinet, whatever, I would get even LESS rest. It's amazing that no matter how sleep deprived I was, I never ever slept through my baby's cries or before I turned of the monitor, every little noise.
Lisa made a very good point too. Babies cry in their sleep. And if the baby was in the room, a mother would more than likely breastfeed the baby when it was actually not necessary. My babies would cry in their sleep and like Lisa, by the time I walked the whole 15 feet to their crib, they'd be asleep again and I would simply go back to bed. If the baby was next to me, I'd pick up the baby right away and nurse. This would get the child used to breastfeeding all the time and I'm betting there could be some sleeping through the night issues where there wouldn't be.
Which leads me to another point. If a mother wakes up each and every time the baby made the slightest of noise, the mother would be getting even ~less~ sleep. And if that mother brought the baby to bed and slept while nursing, there would be an even higher risk of a deadly accident. (To read how easy it really is for this to happen, read the comments from the previous post. There is some really good information there.)
... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
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My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
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7 comments:
I wish I had been better about getting our boys to sleep in their own cribs and rooms when they were infants. I'm sure we all would have slept Alot better.
You look marvelous, btw.
I'm on the same page with you - I saw that autopsy episode before I even started IVF and knew I'd not be doing co-sleeping. I know babies aren't suffocated accidentally in their sleep every day, but it happens often enough to make me not want to do it. Plus, I want my bed to be my and my husband's space. Not into the family bed idea, but it does seem to work well for a lot of people.
I said I'd never co-sleep, and then we did. Ugg. Thankfully, we were able to eventually move her to her pack n play and then after a month or two of that she was in her crib in her own room. I'm guessing things are going to have to be different this time, b/c double babies in my bed...no thanks.
I have no intention of letting those cribs go to waste from day one. I'm like you in that I need my personal space. I can't even sleep if my husband or one of the dogs is touching me, at all. Plus, killing my child with a dangerous sleep situation is one risk I can completely avoid. It is one thing that is within my control, unlike so many others.
We all need to make educated decisions. Even great parents usually must accept some risks, such as some you've already mentioned in the last week. There are too many rules to count, and some even seem to contradict eachother. Some might accept one risk and not another. Take you and I, for example. You might accept the risk of certain deli meat, but not ride a bicycle while pg, while I did just the opposite. We both considered the risks carefully and made informed choices (which I think were both done with the blessing of our doctors in this case).
While SIDS experts recommend keeping the baby in the parent's room, but in their own safe sleep space, for the first 6 months, many great moms don't do that. SIDS experts recommend not using bumper pads. Many great moms do use them -fearing the child will get a leg or arm stuck in the crib rails. SIDs experts recommend breastfeeding and also recommend pacifiers. Other child "experts" suggest not using pacifers for better breastfeeding, or fear of harming teeth...etc.
No matter where your baby sleeps, safety is important and there are measures that can be taken to minimize the risks. Hopefully discussions like these will help others embarking on parenthood to research and consider their choice carefully.
Scarlett was SO noisy as a newborn, there were times I had trouble sleeping with her in the nursery! Good point!
I've never found my babies to be noisy sleepers. Often cosleeping parents respond to their kids without fully waking so thats how more sleep happens.
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