Okay, even though I hate this fucking wait, I need to see what's good about a June FET.
1. It won't interfere with my ~giant~ April release at work (April 19)
2. It won't interfere with Ella's birthday (April 23rd)
3. It won't interfere with Ella's birthday party (April 26th)
4. I'll have more time to save the money needed for more acupuncture. *
5. I'll have more time to save for the costs for the procedure itself.
6. I won't be giant pregnant for xmas (although this is barely a 'pro'. I know what it's like to be giant pregnant and it's not really that hard) but I could potentially be pretty big.
Um, that's all I can think of. Anyone?
* People tell me how lucky I am for insurance. And I know how lucky I am. BUT, I think it's assumed I got a pass on having to pay for anything. I still have to pay 20% (2,200), $650 for acupuncture, $215 for meds and yet another $280 for copays. That's $3,345!! Not quite something I just have in my back pocket. Along with the $16,000+ I pay for daycare each year, I'm pretty damn ~b.r.o.k.e.~! So that was for this IVF. I need to come up with another $400 for acupuncture, another $300 in copays and at least $800 for the doctor. $1,500. Hrm. I have no idea where I'm going to get it just yet.
Yes, this is much less than paying $16,000 for IVF out of pocket. But if I had to pay for that out of pocket, I would of taken out a loan. The way I'm doing it, I'm just paying with my petty cash, so to speak. And I don't have much of it! So I'm poorer in the present than I would of been if I paid out of pocket. Not debt to asset ratio of course, cause I don't have a $16,000 loan, but damn. I'm really really really poor. Do you know how long it's been since I've purchased a handbag? AAHHHH!!!! ~wink~
And if anyone can come up with more positives, I'm all ears! (and no "your lining will be better" crap!)
... Once (and still) Infertile, but still Schnarky as hell. This blog is dedicated to the daily ramblings from the mind of Nancy. It isn't about anything profound in the grand scheme of things, but it ~is~ about things in my life, schnarkiness always included. I have a second blog, listed in my profile, but the blogs will continue to remain separate.
"I'm aiming for heaven, but I'll probably wind up down in hell"
About Me
- nancy
- I am a 39 year old woman. I am the mother of two beautiful daughters and a handsome son. I am a career woman. As for my TTC world, it certainly doesn't seem like I am "infertile", but I fought for my pregnancies and my TTC/IF history is on the sidebar. I have two blogs, which are both listed in my profile. One focuses on my daily life - including IF, TTC, pregnancy, delivery and even some "children mentioned" posts. The second blog is ~soley~ posts directly about being the mother to my three children.
Belly Pics for #3 only.
Click stick figure to see the consecutive pictures from this pregnancy only.
My TTC History
- Jul 01 ~ married
- Jan 02 ~ First cycle off bcps and opk shows ovulation!
- Dec 02 ~ Went to pcp for RE referral
- Jan 03 ~ Testing commences. S/A perfect. HSG clear.
- Feb 03 ~ Lap #1. All clear.
- Apr 03 ~ Clomid cycle #1. BFN.
- May 03 ~ Clomid cycle #2. BFN.
- Jun 03 ~ Clomid cycle #3. BFN.
- Jul 03 ~ Supposed to be IUI#1, but we missed cd3 so natural cycle
- Aug 03 ~ BFP on C18.
- Apr 04 ~ Ella born.
- Oct 04 ~ decided to ttc #2 and went off minipill to see if I am ovulating. I am. Will start next month.
- Nov 04 ~ TTC#2 starts. BFP. Holy Crap. No freaking way. No way.
- Aug 05 ~ Allison born
- Oct 06 ~ IUD removed. TTC#3
- Jan 07 ~ Large cysts found.
- Feb 07 ~ Femara cyle #1
- Mar 07 ~ Started w/ RE. HSG #2 showed R tube blocked. S/A normal.
- Mar 07 ~ more cysts, up to 9cms.
- Apr 07 ~ more cysts, 3 @ 7-9cms.
- May 07 ~ IUI #1 cancelled due to more cysts
- Jun 07 ~ IUI #1 (take two) w/ Clomid. BFN.
- Jul 07 ~ HSS showed scar tissue in 70% of uterus. Diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome. Uterine surgery #2
- Aug 07 ~ HSG #3 showed clear tubes.
- Aug 07 ~ IUI #2 w/ Femara. BFN.
- Sept 07 ~ Monitored w/ hCG trigger. BFN.
- Oct 07 ~ HSS #2 showed scar tissue in 30% of uterus. Uterine surgery #3.
- Dec 07 ~ HSS #3 showed tiny amount of scar tissue. Uterine surgery #4.
- Jan 08 ~ HSS #4 showed clear uterus.
- Jan 08 ~ IUI #3, C16. BFN.
- Mar 08 ~ IVF #1, Transfer Cancelled due to lining. Out of 15 eggs, 9 were mature and all 9 fertilized. I have named my 9 embryos "The Mod Squad" and they are in the freezer, waiting for mommy to be ready.
- Apr/May 08 ~ FET #1. C20. 4 embryos "The Fab Four" transferred on 5/05. BFP!!! Very Low Beta (15 at 11dp3dt) but the numers continued to double every 48 hours. Told it was "most likely not viable" and later "most likely ectopic" but we beat all the odds.
- May 16, 08 ~ 11dp3dt (4w0d), beta #1: 15
- May 19, 08 ~ 14dp3dt (4w3d), beta #2: 43
- May 23, 08 ~ 18dp3dt (5w0d), beta#3: 213
- May 27, 22dp3dt (5w4d), beta #4: 1,073
- Jun 08 - Ultrasound showed one heartbeat at 7 weeks.
- Jul 08 - Had CVS testing. Chromosomes are normal and it's a BOY!! EDD: 1/23
- Aug 08 - Jan 09 ~ High risk due to: 1) Velamentous Cord Insertion, deemed biggest risk 2) Previous Placenta Accreta 3) Previous rapid degraged placenta 4) IVF alone can create weak placenta 5) AMA - Advanced Maternal Age. -- All resulting in almost 30 u/s and lots of testing, which ended up saving my life.
- Jan 09 (38w0d) ~ Karl is born! -- Crazy 3 days in hospital. Manual version to flip baby from breech to head down, Labor, Delivery, Emergency surgery due to cord detaching from placenta, Scary heart issues from losing over 40% of my blood supply, and then a blood transfusion due to the extreme loss of blood. Whew!
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13 comments:
Let's see, there is a much smaller chance that a big snow storm would strand you in June leaving you unable to get to the doctor's office in time for your transfer. Not that there was a big storm yesterday, but the chances were certainly higher than they will be in June.
How's that? I know, I'm stretching.
Good for you for trying to acknowledge the positives. Even though they just don't compare to the suckage.
You can really enjoy cinco de mayo (maybe?)
You have lots of time for your poor swollen belly to go down before it gets all swollen again. ;o)
$1,500. That's about an IUI cycle at my clinic. I'm not trying to make you feel bad at all- I just think my clinic is super expensive... I don't have any advice on that except for clip coupons & who needsnew purses, clothes, shoes... god- I miss shoes the most!
Neither here nor there, but my daughter's birthday is also on April 23 and her party's on April 26. Congrats on your Taurus girl.
One really-stretching reason why June is a great time for transfer... it could fall near the summer equinox, which would be a neat conception day, right?
Another really dumb stretch... you could celebrate July 4 with blue and white positive pee sticks... no red, get it? Ok, that's just too geeky. Delete. Delete.
Kudos for trying to find the silver lining. I'm still damn sorry that you have to.
Bree
Well, hoping all goes well, a baby conceived in June is born near the end of the winter & by the following winter is pretty sturdy... I have 3 March babies & it seems like an ideal time of year. Ah - you also get 3 months or so with the newborn before your kids have school vacation - enough time to get used to things...
I was thinking the same as Jen..you can drink on Cinco De Mayo possibly. Now I have to think of another one...hmmm lets see OH I know it'll give you more time to think of some more names for your embies. 12% said they wanted more of a selection :P
hmm your lining will be better crap... seriously, i joke not, i'm in the same waiting until lining is no longer aneroxic wasteland, so I'm saying your lining may be better (these are the lies I tell myself, so I have to tell them to you too!).
also maybe the embies will be happier in your belly in june, june, at least here, is a nice hot month, so they may enjoy that.
Margaritas when it starts to get hot. One more summer looking skinny in a swimsuit. Tanning in the tanning bed. Sleeping on your stomach. BTW you need to drool on the new Cole Haan bags that are out. I am super upset that I can't afford one right now. GRRRR.
I don't drink really. I do, but I really could care less if I can't drink.
And I'm not going to pick different names for my embies. I put that option in there as a joke thinking no one would pick it and 12% of people actually picked it. Kinda made me feel bad!
A June transfer means you'll be biggest in winter/late winter, which means you'll be able to wear big baggy sweaters.
oh no! That sucks. I love to be pregnant in summer because I hate hiding my belly!!! POOP!! The thought of "baggy sweaters" just made me feel a bit of heartache.
more time for things to work out(or settle down - whatever) between you & hubby? more derby action(are you still doing that?)...and that'a all I got...
(trigs?)- I agree with you about being big pg in the summer, all mine are summer babies and I'm planning the rest like that too. love to show off the baby belly...
Flag day - maybe you have the transfer on the 14th and get to proudly fly your KU banner.
Labor day - you'll get to take it easy and not have to worry about going into early labor.
Halloween - you can dress up as a pumpkin without having to use too much artificial stuffy
Thanksgiving - still small enough that you can eat to your heart's content and not have too bad of heartburn
Christmas - you'll play Santa this year!
New Year's Eve - well, you'll be dreaming of the new year coming in, as you'll be too tired to be up at midnight
President's day - seriously, who cares. Unless those presidents are in your pocket book, you don't want to think about them.
Spring break - hah! Snowed in, ready to deliver, and you call this spring????
I don't think there are any positives I can come up with short of a guarantee it will end in a baby that will make you feel better.
But I'm very jealous of your IVF costs. It sucks that it's out of pocket but I'm getting to the point that I think once I actually give birth to a real live baby I'll have to sell it to pay our debts. :P
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