Thursday, January 24, 2008

"What is wrong with you?" (& poll)

I got a call from my sister this morning. I guess the not pregnant niece got her package...

I was chatting over the unfairities of life w/ a friend when my other line beeped.

"What is wrong with you?" the person on the other line seethed. Ah. Sisterly love.

See, after I found out my stupid sister is allowing a 33 year old man to stay the night and diddle her teenage daughter, I sent my niece a gift. A giant box of condoms. And hey - they were nice condoms! Trojans lubricated w/ spermicide. No, I didn't go as far as getting her something for "her ~and~ his pleasure", but I spent over $30 on the box. She obviously needs them if she had a pregnancy scare.

The package was simply addresses to my niece. No note. Nothing.

So why is my sister calling me up? Was it unethical or immoral to give a teenager condoms? And the audacity to ask what is wrong with me when she is the one who is allowing some out of work 33 year old divorcee, with a teenage child of his own, sleep with her own teenage daughter?

It's one thing for a nineteen year old to have a pregnancy scare with another nineteen year old, but with a man in his 30s? ick.

Hey - I have a poll down at the VERY bottom of my page on the right ... Can you please take it for me? (I had to repost the poll because people voted while I was still adding in the options, so if you were one of the first 3 to vote last time, please re-vote!)


jenn said...

I think that your package was perfect. There's obviously nothing wrong with you- but maybe your sister can't handle that there might be something wrong with her or her daughter. It's such a classic response when you are 'called out' on one of your faults or flaws.

and I voted- even though I am 28- I pretended for a moment I was 30... Hope it doesn't skew your responses too much! ;o)

Lori said...

I feel sick.

Great gift idea.

Maybe your sister's just mad about you not getting the Pleasure ones.

Ha ha.

Jenera said...

I think it was a perfectly acceptable gift to send when obviously your sister isn't thinking about protecting her daughter.

And you KNOW that your niece is going to use 'em.

Nic said...

I dated a 30yo a few times when I was 21. We had very little in common. It was wierd.

I think given the pg scare your present was totally warranted! What made your sis think it was from you, any idea?

Monica Fayth said...

When I first saw your poll, I thought "darn, I'm too young to vote." But then I remembered, I did just turn 30.

But yeah, if he's going to let a 30-something live with her daughter then sounds like she definitely needs some protection!

Monica Fayth said...

I was also thinking that my vote would be much different if I was in my mid to late 30's or older.

Jewels said...

LMAO, That is EXACTLY what I love about you Nancy, you are not afraid to acknowledge the Pink Elephant in the room.

You are my Hero.

Sadly, instead of being appreciated or respected, we get labeled as the "Shit Causer" when we simply just want to live with our head out of our ass mixed with a little humor.

nancy said...

Nic - My address was the return address on the package. I just didn't enclose a note.

Meredith said...

I am also not yet 30 but I did vote. My dh and I are 7 years apart so I am sure that played a role in my vote as well. I was 19 and he was 25 (almost 26) when we started dating.

Denise said...

That was the perfect gift. Maybe your sister's response was a defense mechanism for trying not to think about what she should have done differently to prevent the situation in the first place. Just a guess.

Shayna said...

Good for you hun, I think the package was perfect too.

The only one with something "wrong" with them is your sister for letting that 33 year old in her house to have sex with her 19 year old daughter. That, to me, is the only thing wrong with this situation.

What you did was awesome in so many ways.

Anonymous said...

I've been on both sides of the age gap and in retrospect it can get a little creepy. When I was 24 I moved in with a 41 year old. In retrospect (as in now that I'm 30 I couldn't imagine being with a 47 year old) I wonder what I was thining. More so I wonder what a 41 year old man saw in a 24 year old woman. Probably the same thing a 33 year old man sees in a 19 year old girl.

I like the gift you sent and think it was quite appropriate.

Oh, and I voted for 25. This is only because I'm 30 right now & I have a 5 year rule.

nancy said...

But you were 24. A young woman, yes, but not a CHILD. Teenagers, to me, just seem that they should be off limits. Old men shouldn't troll the high schools for a date.

Anonymous said...

When I was 19, I dated a 36 year old man. I think I was fairly mature for my age, but to say that I was as mature as I am now is a stretch. He was a great man, and I learned a lot. I think the age difference was an issue for him in the long run. The thing I really respected about him is that he treated me as an adult. We were both consenting adults, so I didn't see an issue and neither did he.

We remained friends, but unfortunately, he died an untimely death at the early age of 47 from cancer. Honestly, the planet is not the same without this man, in my opinion. His friends and colleagues feel the same way. Life seems so unfair sometimes.

Oh, and my husband is 11 years older than I am. What can I say, I like older, mature men!

Topcat is fiery, said...

Oh my goodness - GOOD ON YOU for sending them to her. I'm guessing no Hallmark card from sis for your next birthday? Oops ..

Just off to vote now ..

Rachel Inbar said...

Your package sounds great. I'm sure once your sister thinks about it a bit, she'll realize it was both funny and that it sent a serious message to your niece.

I am actually older than my husband, but no, it's not that he has a thing about older women - we're 13 days apart :-)

Kristin said...

I think your gift was a great idea! And I can't believe your sister is upset about it. Does she *want* her daughter to get pregnant by this man? Jeez.

Io said...

I think it's awesome that you sent those on. What is wrong with your sister that she thinks it's ok for them to sleep together and NOT use protection?
As for the age thing - I was 20 when I started dating my dh, who was 29. In his defense, I pursued him. Also, I think the maturity level makes a big difference - I was a pretty mature 20 year old, I certainly wasn't living at home, and I knew to use a condom.

Katarina Jelly Beana said...

That's what I love about you, Nancy. You've got BALLS. You inspire me.

I love your gift. It's useful, thoughtful and clearly something they don't already have themselves.

Good for you for getting your two cents in with the creepy old man and his concubine.

Swim said...

Good gift for your neice.

Why would a 33 yr old man want to live with his 19 yr old girlfriend at her mom's house? Is he paying rent??

When I was 25 I dated a 35 yr old and he was the most immature man I have ever dated. I guess that has influenced my views on your post. The guys needs to grow up!

Trisha said...

I am LMFAO right now at you nancy